Three super power tools for making sure you don't give all your energy away this holiday - holiday stress relief that works!
It's December, so what do us crazy humans do? Run around like energizer bunnies gone mad, running from party to party, store to store, gift wrapping to cooking baking. Bright lights, big sales and big pressure to see and be everywhere. It is a season that we spend DOING.
Now compare that to nature the animals that live in the forest, that live lock and step with nature, following the natural cycle of living on earth.
Take the bear or birds for instance, what is he or she up to in December? Are they out canvassing all the holiday sales hoping to get that DVD player on sale? Running around from grocery store to grocery store worrying that he won't have enough food to feed the guests for the party he's planned? No way! These smart creatures is getting their house (or cave or nest as the case may be) in order, stocking up on all the goods they need to get through the frozen winter. They are not over spending or over giving their stock, they are savoring and saving it, using it slowly.
These wise animals are tuned into a station we too often ignore: nature. And for the entire month of December this station is broadcasting one message: SLOW DOWN!
So what do we humans do? We speed up! The opposite of what the energy of the season is asking for. No wonder we are dead tired come Dec 28th, and then we pep up for one last go around on New Year's and then spend the next two months trying to work off all the excess we sped up to create.
Now to be fair, bears and birds don't face the pressure you do. They aren't bombarded with Christmas advertising campaigns. Or relatives and friends that all want to share in the holiday cheer. Self love comes easier to them. But they do have some behaviors you can use this holiday season that can help you SLOW DOWN and at the same time still enjoy all the love and fun that abounds.
I know you may not believe me, but it is actually in your nature to SLOW DOWN... when you tap into your Feminine Super Power of PAUSE, and choose what my friend, spiritual counselor and artist calls "finding the stillness in the swirl!" - i love that!!!
Here's a video I taped from my backyard to give a sense of what that feels like to CHOOSE stillness in the swirl
Watch the video (its only 1 minute) and then choose one of these 3 Super Power Strategies:
1. BE SMART WITH YOUR ENERGY - DON'T OVER GIVE or OVER DO... GIVE ENOUGH, not more, AND SAVE THE REST FOR YOURSELF
The self-loving, smart bear or bird loves to share their gifts, time and energy, with those she loves, especially her prized honey or beautiful song, but they never empty their supplies. And they never feels guilty for keeping honey, branches, energy for themselves. So for you... yes, give to the people and things that you love this holiday season, and RETAIN energy for yourself too. Remember to GIVE to yourself. And do it before you run yourself into a cold or a sore neck. When you start feeling that run down sensation or the stress kick in, ask yourself, "Am I over-giving? Am I over-doing? Am I over extending myself?" if the answer is yes, stop drop and recalibrate your giving equation and ask "What is ENOUGH to give, to do, to offer?" and "What do I need to also GIVE myself?"
2. BE STILL - SPEND EXTRA TIME IN YOUR CAVE
The self-loving, smart bear or bird isn't romping around the forest in December using up all their energy, they spend extra time loving being in their cave or nest. After all, they have worked hard all year to make it cozy. December is a time of going inward and it's more natural to want to cozy up at home than to flit from party to party every night. Pick your social outings wisely, doing the ones that fill you up the most. Don't be afraid to pass on social obligations that don't totally light you up. Decline politely, wish them holiday cheer, and then create a cozy, warm space inside your home full of self love, magic and holiday beauty. Use that energy to fill you up.
3. BE SELECTIVE - Say NO TO WHAT FEELS OUT OF ALIGNMENT WITH WHAT YOU REALLY NEED & WANT, EVEN IF THAT MEANS DISAPPOINING ANOTHER.
Choose the FEW Things that really matter to you and say YES to those. The self-loving smart you knows what is best for you and doesn't waste your vital energy carrying around feelings of guilt or obligation. She does what she needs to do and wants to do, without apologizing to the other bears. She's never rude, always full of love, and she has no qualms about setting healthy boundaries. Make this a holiday that you do your way. Set the intention that you will fill yourself up with energy, love and happiness this holiday, and anything that doesn't fit those three bills, you can pass on, without guilt or obligation.
Which of these 3 Feminine Super Power of Pause choices will you commit to? And WHY is this important to YOU?
Here's My Choice: #2
I choose to be still and spend extra time in my cave. This is So important to me because after 10 months of being out traveling in the world, and 3 months of supporting Noah to recover from his stroke, I need to regather and regroup internally, to connect really deeply with MY heart and soul, to hear what she is trying to say to me. This will serve me and everyone I love and serve so much better in 2014 if I do this now. .
What is a Vision Quest and Why Do We Visionary Women Need to Quest?
Hello beautiful visionary revolutionary woman -
As far as we can tell, we visionaries are different creatures. We just are not like everyone else. We need space to tune into the unseen. To listen. To touch into how our visions are calling us forward. We need time to take journeys behind the veils to hear the call of our soul. And then we need to find the keys to help us bring that vision into form, here in the now, on the planet, in real ways that can serve people, and serve us. This kind of journey often requires a visionary vision quest.
In the past two months, we have both taken vision quests of our own - Shiloh in Europe and Christine in Hawaii, to listen deeply to what is wanting to emerge in this next evolution of our own sacred paths. As we both visioned on our own, we also felt the burning call from the divine to create the space to vision quest for visionary women this October... are you coming??
Whether you are able to join us or not on the mountain side in California, we are sending the call to all the visionary revolutionary women that there is something occurring at this time that is calling us all forward to Vision Quest... to use our most powerful tools to listen to spirits guidance... to press pause on the busyness so we can attune to our bodies and our souls truth... to remember more deeply than we ever have who we are, why we are here, and what is calling us forward to bring into form now.
I, Christine, taped a video for you from the volcanic mountain I've been visioning with to share with you a few pieces of wisdom all of us visionaries could use about now.
Take a few minutes to tune into the bigger call that is occurring for us visionary revolutionaries.
In the video, I'll share with you:
What a Vision Quest is - from my viewpoint
What visionary women need to find the answers they seek
How the land plays a part in our ability to bring our visions into form
Why the time of October is so essential to our visionary process
How to use the visionary energies available to you this Fall Equinox and Harvest Time to bring your vision into form.
Wherever this finds you today, we witness you as the revolutionary visionary you are - whether you are emerging for the first time, or re-emerging like a butterfly in a new iteration of the soul expression that you have been shining on this earth.
I have a question for you today, and it's important. Really important.
So important that I am going to ask you to take 5 minutes right now to watch this video I taped for you - this week's love letter. Take a best friend moment with yourself, and tap into your Inner Wisdom for some wisdom that's going to help you stop holding back from really going for you greatest life.
I am on the East Coast talking with people about all the ways in which we hold ourselves back from being free - free to live the lives we were destined to have. (just got here after packing up my house so I could be totally free to live my dreams - yikes! and yahoo!)
Quick but mighty truth... We ALL hold ourselves back for different reasons at different times...
The difference between those that LIVE our dreams and that dream about our dreams, is being able to see what's holding us back, and moving it out of the way so we can FLY.
And today, I invite you to take one giant step for yourself to let go what is holding you back from living the life you want RIGHT NOW!
FLY baby FLY!
And then tell me here on this blog - what is it that you are letting go of and taking a step forward into your freedom so you can FLY!
And remember... be compassionate, gentle - you know no judgement or undue pressure on yourself! Flying isn't pushing, it's allowing yourself to expand into your truth with grace.
Wherever this finds you today, I am bringing you a big boost of the energy to tap into... see past those fear feelings and connect into the power of what love can give you. (And I invited the BEST guest for this week's video love letter, you are going to love her and what she has to share about fear.)
I taped this love letter for you when I was with Rhonda Britten 4x best-selling author and founder of Fearless Living in Los Angeles last week... and of course, you know how the universe works, you teach what you also need to learn. So Friday night, the night before LOVE FEST in Chicago FEAR showed up knocking on my hotel door. I let it in using the techniques we share in this video... and it worked. I created more love, stepped into my gifts and had a super powered, love generating experience.
Now it's your turn!
And then join us Sunday 2/17 for a event all about YOU choosing LOVE over FEAR in your relationship to yourself, to others and in the choices you make for your life.
Sunday 2/17 - Fearless Love - Open Your Heart and Life to Infinite Amounts of Love - Los Angeles or Video Streamed. Video-Love Streamed around the world, you can come in person to Los Angeles or video-cast in for this super powered afternoon all about breaking through the walls and fear that keep you from being Wealthy in Love. Increase your Love Quotient - your capacity for receiving love and activate your Trinity of Love - three sources always available to you to feel loved. $35 in advance.
Inside of you are offerings that you want to give to the world this year -- and we want you to give them. We need you to give them - because you are the only one who can. And sometimes, we also know your inner critic can try and stop you - filling your head with all kinds of self doubt and other negative noise. Watch this love letter video with me, Christine Arylo, and one of the best inner critic transformers I know, Amy Ahlers, best-selling author of Big Fat Lies Women Tell Themselves, and co-founder with me of Inner Mean Girl Reform School.
If you are ready for more self empowerment and inner critic transformation make sure to join us for the self-love concert on self-love day!
Do you ever have one of those days where you feel like you don't have the support that you need? Or maybe even a few days, weeks that can go by that way? Or as you start to connect into the dreams you have for your coming year, you just feel like you don't possibly have the support to create them?
I have these times of feeling unsupported less I used to, but they still creep in, for sure, and when they do, yikes!
Sometimes it's not so bad, I just get a little crabby. But sometimes it grows to frustration, and that wrinkle between my brows starts to show its nasty face, which is usually followed by an inner mean girl attack.
Or like last week, the feelings of not having the support I need gets so intense I feel like just quitting my life - you know like running away to some island somewhere and just start selling pencils (which Noah always reminds me is not a very profitable business.)
And I have a GREAT life... but in these moments, I am so disconnected from the source of my support it's hard to see it, let alone feel it or believe it.
Today's love letter is dedicated to each one of us taking a stand to leave the "I am not supported. I don't have the support I need. It's all on me. I am on my own" stories in 2012.
And in 2013, from a place of SELF-EMPOWERMENT (super rad branch on the self-love tree) take a stand for getting clear on the support you need, asking for the support you want, and then opening up to receiving the support when in comes.
Tune into this weeks Love Letter where I share a super powered process I use to tell the universe what support i need each year... and the emergency process I use in the moments when I forget how supported I am.
The video includes a short but mighty adventure - including markers! - that will show you how to call in the support you need and want in 2013.
You don't want to go into the new year laden down with things you don't need. This means that you want to make a conscious decision about what you are taking into 2013 with you... and what you are leaving behind. Because while we are grateful for all the lessons of 2012, you don't want to take unnecessary stuff with you into the new year.
It will weigh you down.
I've been letting go of unhealthy emotions, unnecessary patterns, old clothes, and more... even let go of an unneeded e-mail box yesterday - AHH relief!!
So today, I share with you a process - that is simple but mighty in it's three questions -- that I've been using with myself and my close clients for years - and it works like a charm to make sure you start 2013 clear and ready to RECEIVE.
I invite you to take an act of self-love - have a BFF moment, you know a heart to heart with yourself that gives you permission to take action aligned with your highest good.
Check in to see what you can release, compost and send off with good will. This will feel GREAT!
And then list here a few of the things you are letting go so we and put them into the Cosmic Transformer Vat and recycle them into the Universe!
TAKE THIS MEDITATION and then read below and take the Daring Act of Love to Acknowledge Yourself for All You Have Done and Become This Year
Did you ever notice that come December you can hardly remember what happened in February, April or May? Which is such a tragedy - given all the effort, time and love you put into your life in 2012.
I know that this past year you have faced challenges, overcome obstacles, had great successes, met failure and persevered - and here's the truth - you deserve acknowledgment for that! Not only do you deserve it, you need it.
And here's why - when you don't stop to acknowledge and witness all that you have BECOME and DONE in a year, it's almost like it didn't really happen. It's like you get amnesia and you forget, so you keep repeating the same lessons, keep feeling like you aren't doing enough, keep striving to get somewhere instead of feeling peaceful with where you are at.
BUT... if you do STOP to ACKNOWLEDGE all you have both DONE and BECOME then it feels like it really happened, you REMEMBER and you FEEL GOOD about yourself. Feeling good about yourself, you can walk into 2013 with an open heart, ready to receive all the love, joy and peace waiting for you.
It is important to acknowledge both what you've DONE -- the actions and tangible shifts like writing a book, getting a new job, losing 5 lbs. AND who you have BECOME -- the emotional, spiritual and intangible shifts like being more compassionate with yourself, releasing a negative pattern, choosing self-care or self-pleasure over overwork.
I highly encourage you to GUSH LOVE all over yourself. For extra super power do the acknowledging in front of a mirror or with another person who can witness you by asking and answering these questions outloud or writing them down (both for the best result!)
1. I acknowledge you NAME for .... 2. I am so proud of you NAME for... (lists lots here) 3. You really did a great job at .... (list lots here) 4. I am so proud of who you have become, just look at how you have... (gush here) 5. You can be really proud of yourself for...
Fill yourself up with LOVE this weekend and then go out into the world as a Love Ambassador and share the LOVE.