The alarm rings and you awake Realizing that even though you just slept the night Your body is exhausted Your soul is tired And while you try to fire your engine To zoom out of bed to meet the day You roll out, slowly, puttering instead of zooming
Your mind feels a little cloudy So you attempt a few of your tried and true go-tos to slough off the tired blanket that has wrapped itself around your entire being
A shower, some yoga, caffeine, the internet ... those should get you going But yet even if they do provide a small jolt of wake up Underneath, the tired and empty place remains For while there is work to be done, and people who are tugging at you for attention The truth is... If you took a moment out of your busy life, to look in the mirror into your eyes, the window to your heart and soul What you would see and hear back in response is ... "You have nothing more left to give today."
The question is - with a busy life and many responsibilities - what do you do with that?
I'll give you a hint, The answer is not push through (although let's be honest that is what most of us do)
The answer is not ignore what you can feel in your bones is true (although we've been taught to doubt our most trusted ally, our Inner Wisdom).
The answer is not to fall in a heap of despair onto the bathroom floor either because you just can't find a way to handle everything that needs handling and take care of yourself (although we have all been pushed to tears from overwhelm.)
The answer is... to open to RECEIVE.
After you stop, open and receive your self-love actions from your Inner Wisdom about what you need to RECEIVE now, post them here for us all to be inspired and for you to make the commitment and keep it!
Not from your head or your ego, or what
you think you should have to make you happy.
Go deeper.
To the place where real dreams,
dreams worth having and dreams that
actually have the power to manifest in reality come from.
Go in to your heart.
Who already knows exactly what dream is
raising its hand screaming, "Ooh! Ooh! Pick me!!"
Who already knows the first few steps
you could take right now to turn it from dream to reality.
What does your heart have to say?
Can you hear her or him?
Okay, let's do this together.
Close your eyes right now. Take a
breath and put your hand on your heart and ask,
"What is the one dream I have for
myself that right now is most important to me?"
What does your heart say?
And if you were to ask
"What is the one or two steps that I
can take in the next three days to move towards that dream?"
What does your heart say?
And wait, one more question...
"What is the one thing that will stop
me from this dream becoming real?"
What does your heart say?
Okay, just one more...
"If I didn't listen to fear but
instead to the truth in my heart, what do I know?"
Whew! Great work moving past your fear
into love... if you were really listening to your heart when you did
this exercise, then when you asked yourself what would stop my dream
from becoming real, you would have felt your heart contracting,
fluttering or some kind of feeling that was BLAH! That's because
fear had the microphone!
And as an ambassador of Team Love, I'm
just not going to let fear win over you and smash your dream. All you
have to do is take the love dare!
SELF-LOVE DARE... Take one giant
step toward your dream!
Write down the guidance you
received in your journal, on a piece of paper, heck even a sticky
note. Just somewhere you can see it.
Then write down, say out loud or
share with a friend the one or two actions you are going to take in
the next 3 days to take a giant leap toward
For those of you that are looking to kick fear out of your love life, and haven't yet taken the self-love stand to choose ME before WE... take a swing by my book page for Choosing ME before WE, check her out, and if you are ready to really truly put the love back in your love life, starting with the love you have for you, pick yourself up a copy.
Wherever this finds you today, read
this knowing that fear only has the power you provide it and at any
time you have a choice ... To choose to have faith in LOVE or to
choose to have faith in FEAR. I really encourage you to try on having
faith in LOVE. And of course, that love starts with the love you have
for yourself. Love yourself well today. You deserve it.
About Christine
Arylo
Popular author of
Choosing
ME before WE, Every Woman's Guide to Life and Love,
Christine has been called the Queen of Self-Love. Her insights, fresh
perspectives and daring take on love, in all its forms, have been
featured on TV and radio stations across the country, in the world's
top spas and retreat centers, and in colleges and corporations. She
is the founder of Madly in Love with ME, an international movement of
self-love, which includes a free self-love kit downloadable at
www.ChooseSelfLove.com.
She is also the co-founder of Inner
Mean Girl Reform School, a virtual school where women go
to transform their self-sabotaging voices into self-empowering ones.
A woman who owns her vulnerability understands that to be vulnerable is not weak, but instead is one of the strongest powers she possesses. For it is by being vulnerable that she allows herself to be seen by another as her truest and most innocent self. She can put the epicenter of her own self love on display - and by doing so invites the other to do the same.
Because she can open herself to be seen so deeply, this woman has the ability to receive love from another. When a woman is closed and protected, love cannot get in, no matter how much she wants it. It is only when a woman allows her heart to open that she has the capacity to receive love. How much love depends on how open her heart is, or in other words, how big her love quotient is. As she expands her love quotient, so does the love expand in her life. A woman who stands in the power of her vulnerability has the capacity to accept and give love freely, unafraid that anything can or will be taken away from her. She knows that when she is truly open no one can take love from her. She is unafraid to show the raw, real feelings that live inside her soul. She knows that they may not be received by everyone, however she does not let that stop her from sharing herself. She is smart in who she chooses to be vulnerable with, but she is not shrewd in her selection as that would close off her heart.
She knows that her expression of vulnerability can open up the heart of another, inviting them to show their raw and real self in return. She understands that this is one of the most potent powers of vulnerability - the ability to open up hearts, both hers and everyone her power touches.
Because she is comfortable yielding her vulnerability, she always steps forward in love. She hugs big and freely. She trusts big and freely. She shares truthfully and freely. She is unafraid to cry, to tell the truth, to appear weak, to be wrong. Even if she knows she may get hurt, she believes it worth the risk.
This is a woman who understands that she cannot expect what she cannot give. So if it is intimacy she wants, she must be willing to create it herself. Vulnerability is the key to intimacy. One cannot access intimacy without vulnerability. This woman understands that, as she takes responsibility for creating safe spaces in her relationships.
She is unafraid to ask for or show the way to her partner to create this vulnerability. She is willing to be both student and teacher, as long as they both lean in and experiment together.
She is capable of sharing her raw feelings. Of admitting her weaknesses and fears. Of taking responsibility for her behaviors, no matter how hard they are to admit. And she does so without blaming, criticizing or passing judgment. She does so with an open heart, in spite of the fact that she may be afraid to do so.
What is your powerful definition of Vulnerability?
HI Sister or Brother Control Addict - yes, it's okay, you can admit that like most of us human beings you love to control. Well, maybe not love, but you can't seem to help yourself. Control is what your mind believes gives you power. Power to keep yourself safe, secure and successful. Which of course is SO not true. What control really does is give you migraines, stress, swinging emotions and a heck of alot more work!
Not to fret. There is another way to live. One that offers way more happiness, love, peace... one that allows miracles to show up in your life... one that gives you the feeling of safety and security you need to take the risks in life that bring your heart and soul what they truly desire.
And that way is the way of the Feminine Super Power of Surrender. Surrender is the choice to let go of control and struggle, letting yourself step into, fall into, move into the unknown, led by the light of the divine (even when you can't see it!) Check out the video above and I'll share with you why we try to control, why surrender is a much better choice, and two easy ways you can move into surrender vs. control in any moment of your day!
SELF LOVE DARE And then, in honor of us recovering controllers I invite you to post on this blog one thing you are trying to control using this statement of surrender
"I SURRENDER (insert the thing you are trying to control) to the DIVINE (or whatever you call this higher power."
And then put yourself in the Surrender Position (as illustrated in the video) and release control by doing the "I SURRENDER" mantra 3x!
The release feels divine!!
EXTRA SURRENDER INSIGHTS...
Sometimes we don't like to admit we are trying to control, and sometimes we are just totally blind to it. To help you amp up your awareness when you are in Control mode, here are four ways you know when you are NOT surrendering:
ONE: Your Body tells you -
Tighten jaw
Shoulder blades, neck get tense, control the universe spot
Head spins
Anxiety in your chest
Fatigue
TWO: Your Emotions tell you
Crabby
Lash Out
Get bossy
Angst
THREE: Your Mind tells you
Won't shut down or off - insomnia, busy busy, monkey mind, can't meditate
Obsessive - going over and over in head, dog on bone, can't let go
In the future or the past - wishing for it to be different than it is.
FOUR: Your Habits tell you
Work harder - overwork (work-aholic)
Life falls out of balance and harmony - becomes lopsided - all about work, all about the kids, all about helping someone
Reaching out in an obsessive kind of way to get feedback and answers from others - collude, gossip, seek too much feedback
CHOOSE ONE BLOCK TO RECEIVING & CHOOSE TO RELEASE IT notice how this block shows up in your life, and when it shows up, instead of shutting the self love down, open up and RECEIVE. Relax. Open. Nurture. Let your guard down. Open yourself and your heart to love.
1. Full of the Future: Chasing the Carrot Syndrome. Always living for the day I will be X. Happy, thin, in love, etc. You are always in the future. You are future focused, not present focused. It's like being at the best 4th of July Fireworks, and thinking about your Christmas presents - you miss the fireworks, and feel unfulfilled.
2. Forcing: Rely totally on your man powers to make it happen, instead of your feminine super powers. You control. Pushing Pushing out so there is no space for anything to come in. You are always moving and doing, because you are used to pushing. And when you are always pushing there is no space for anything to come in. This is like the woman who goes out search for a man, instead of putting out the vibration for him to come into her life. She has a plan, a strategy, she's on the dating sites, she uses a lot of her own energy to make it happen. She doesn't listen to her intuition or have any sense that there are things outside of her control. Now compare that to Sophia Loren, who uses her feminine power to the millionth degree. She just stands there, vibrates off energy, and attracts men to her, little effort, no sweat... even at the age she is today! Talk about Aphrodite energy.
3. Over-Doing. Energizer Bunny Syndrome. Cannot Turn Yourself Off. You are always going going doing doing so again there is NO space for anything to come in. And you are the one doing it all, till you drop. Ex. You have a mind that always moves. You can't relax. In fact relaxing makes you twitch. You don't know how to "be", and maybe even see the value in 'Being', after all how much can you really get done if you are being? (hint, alot!). You may also be the type of person who thinks they can't meditate. You are addicted to doing.
4. Over focus and thinking on scarcity, limitation, and not enoughness. Disconnected from Source. There is an abundant universe that wants to give you many many gifts. When you think you have to do it all on your own, when you don't have a daily practice where you connect to source, when you don't operate on faith, or are over attached to outcomes, you are out of the flow, and you are not receiving all you could. When you cut the flow off you have to work way harder.
5. Over-responsibility. Atlas Syndrome. You take everything on because you can do so much but then you end up with the entire world on your shoulders. You see something that needs to be done, so you do it. You volunteer even though you are already busy. You overcommit and then stress out because you have so much to do (although you always get it done.) Often, you think you are the only one that can do it right. You pride yourself in your maniac multi-tasking abilities. And then you get mad and burnout, because you know what, carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders is too heavy, even for you.
6. Over Care. Master of the Universe Complex. You try to control it all. Organizing it. Covering all the possibilities. You don't let anything fall through the cracks, and you'll work extra long and hard to make sure everything nothing can go wrong. Trust, Surrender, Accept, are not words you live by. You may be prone to stuffing your feelings... don't have time to fall apart. You would rather know exactly what is going to happen, plan for all possibilities. You really aren't into allowing things to happen. Stepping into the unknown is not your favorite thing to do.
7. Over-Protected. Closed Heart - to yourself or to others. Your heart isn't open fully to give or receive love. You've built Fort Knox around your heart. You've learned to protect yourself. Vulnerability is not your strength and you aren't even sure if you would want it to be. No one, not even you, gets totally into the softest parts of you. And when it comes to loving yourself, lets just say that if people could see how mean you are to yourself, they would call the authorities.
What if I told you that you could get more done by doing less? Would you believe me?
Would you nod your head like you did believe me, even agree to try some of the crazy things I asked you to try, yet still fall back into your old busy, over doing patterns... you know the ones that keep you feeling overworked and overwhelmed without a clue about how to attain the peace of mind the women on the front of your yoga magazine seems to effortlessly emanates?
I get it. I am a recovering achievement junkie and doing addict myself, programmed to push and push until I get to my goal. One of the reasons it makes it so hard to change that programming is that I have this Inner Mean Girl inside my head who I call 'Move-the-bar Brenda.' She is always moving the goal right before I get 'there.' No matter if I reach the goal I originally set out for, or that I did more than a team of 10 horses on their best day could accomplish, in her eyes, and therefore in mine, I fall short, and therefore there is more to do. So I have to keep pushing.
In 2011, with the help of my Inner Wisdom, and some inside tips from a few 'telegrams from heaven' I received (and have included here for you), Move-the-Bar Brenda is going on vacation, far far away. And she would like to invite your over doing, over achieving, over responsible Inner Mean Girl to go with her!
All you have to do is read these telegrams for heaven, decide how they apply to your life and then take an inside action - change your internal filter to see that maybe, just maybe, you can have a bigger impact (and be happier) if you do less in 2011.
In 2011:
Select out a few 'seeds' - project, focuses, desires - and really focus on protecting, and nurturing those precious few. 2010 was all about throwing lots of seeds out there and seeing what grows. 2011 is about letting many of those seeds go, and only protecting a few. The best analogy I heard was from Pamela Eakins, Phd, whose said imagine last year you threw down lots of seeds and this garden started to grow, and now this year, the goats have arrived, and they are going to start to eat everything up. If you could only save a few seeds what would those be? Build a fence around those, protect and grow those.
Narrowing your focus and letting go is okay - trust it. So as you choose your specific seeds, you are going to have to let the goats eat the remaining seeds. Which means you will have to let go of ideas, project, goals, to-dos and more. This of course freaks us overdoers and overachievers out. Just know that this act will bring up some fear, and notice when the fear shows up. Calm your Inner Mean Girl down by closing your eyes, breathing. See how letting go frees you up to have more impact in what you do do. This is about activating your Feminine Super Power of Trust.
Focus on what you are being called to do, because not everything is yours to do. This should make it easier to trust, if you can let your over-responsible Inner Mean Girl take a vacation, knowing that there are MANY people on this planet who are doing great work, who are here to do the things you can't, and who want to help you. My friend and transformational artist Shiloh McCloud always says: Imagine yourself sitting in a circle of women, passing around a ball of red thread. As each woman holds her piece of the red thread we form a strong circle that is powerful enough to do anything. Now imagine cutting off your piece of the red thread. Look down at this one piece... this is what is yours to do. If we each do our part, we don't have to do everyone else's. Whew!!
Slow down. Likely you are missing opportunities and working harder than you need to. By letting things go you will automatically slow down, as long as you don't pick more up. Walk through 2011 with a heightened awareness of your pace. As one woman said to me recently, 'Enjoy the nectar of the earth. Eat the nectar of life." What if your life rolled like honey in 2011?
As you sort out which seeds are yours to grow, water, and take care of this year, use these questions to help you:
What is calling me the most?
How can I best serve? (your gifts are your service, find those gifts and give those)
What will provide me the most stabilization? What will create structures that stabilize my life?
What are my deepest heart's desires for this year?
What does my fear say I need to do, and what does my heart know is mine to do?
In case you are wondering where these telegrams from heaven about 2011 were delivered from, and you want more, I will share with you some of the wonderful angels on earth who have shared their wisdom with me, allowing me to incorporate these thoughts in my year. Check out Pamela Eakins - intuitive wonder and Phd - at www.pamelaeakins.org - and the 13 Grandmothers - www.grandmotherscouncil.org/.
I leave you with this quote from the 13 Grandmothers...
"It is time for the women of the world to own their innate wisdom"
Listen. Slow Down. Stabilize. And enjoy the nectar of life!
Inside of me there is a great space Full of wisdom and joy, Love and happiness... I am just too busy to visit For more than a few moments...
You see I have a life Responsibilities Goals Aspirations Things to do Things that take my time For more than a few moments
Don't get me wrong Some of the taking of time is good It fuels my heart and spirit Feeds me and my family And gives me a sense of purpose For more than a few moments
But some of the time That is taken and spent On the to do's, must do's and should do's I would like to take back For myself For more than a few moments
Does that make me selfish? Does that make me greedy? How will it all get done if I don't do it myself? These are the thoughts that fill my head When I think about taking my time back, creating space for me For more than a few moments
But today I think I will change the channel And tune my mind into a new thought stream One that broadcasts messages like Yes, take time, create space for yourself For more than a few moments
For the act of creating space, slowing down, pausing Is not one of slacking, selfishness or greed But a daring choice of self-love Your body, mind and body were built to pause For more than a few moments
But in a world so un-pause friendly, the pause can seem impossible. Until you change your channel And tune into to the natural pauses of the earth And match your body, spirit and mind to hers For more than a few moments
On this day, Winter Solstice as the day goes black for long I invite you to dance with the earth to the slowest of waltzes Slow down your internal rhythm, move with stillness, Find silence, reflect on your year past, and celebrate yourself For more than a few moments
In fact take the whole night. To love the woman or man you have become Through the passing of this 12 months time After all, don't you deserve to soak in all you have done and become For more than a few moments
Find gratitude for the surprises the year has brought. Celebrate your successes. Embrace your failures. And on this night, find, gather and benefit from the Wisdom you earned over the year Because you chose to pause on Winter Solstice, for more than a few moments.
by Christine Arylo, inspirational catalyst and founder of the international day of self love. http://www.christinearylo.com
On Sunday October 17th, I had the GREAT honor of spending the afternoon with 19 amazing, fabulous, powerful women who have all given themselves in service to bringing forward transformational work that changes the lives of women and girls.
I called the gathering, the Gathering of the Queens, because we are ALL queens in service to every person we touch, every day, when we live from a place of true service and love. Being a queen is NOT about lording over or being above, it is an energy that when held inside your heart, emanates a true, deep, powerful feminine energy, which my friend and amazing transformational artist, Shiloh Sophia McCloud puts to words and picture so well.
I share it with you here...
Every Woman Is the Queen of Her Own Heart Shiloh Sophia McCloud
She must decide how to govern her own domain.
She seeks friends and allies that honor who she is now and who she is becoming.
She has the power to create miracles.
Her prayers and intentions manifest in right order.
She does not know how or when her needs will be met, but she trusts the will of the Divine.
Being the Queen of one's domain is not about being the ruler over anyone else's life or ideas.
And it isn't even about calling herself a Queen.
It is about self honor. It is about choice.
It is about knowing her limits and setting her boundaries.
And about encouraging others to live their possibilities.
It is about learning how to live with what comes her way, with as much grace, majesty and justice as she can.
And sometimes, yes, she has to have her own way!
She claims her unique destiny and recognizes she has a calling.
A calling to greatness within her own life. And within her own heart.
The Queen of Her Own Heart invites others to join her there - in the middle of the awakened sacred heart.
She invites others to love powerfully - unconditionally - while at the same time practicing discernment and wisdom.
She is forgiving. And she believes healing is at hand.
She leads her own life as grand experiment in happiness, in creativity and in abundance.
She offers her gifts to others, but not to her own detriment.
She rests as she needs to, ruling one's own life takes energy.
She chooses to embody wholeness even when she feels fragmented by all there is to do.
She holds the prayers of the world within her because she cares what happens - with everyone - even though she cannot reach them all. She reaches who she can.
She often feels like she is not pulling it all off, and sometimes she isn't. But she keeps reaching anyway.
She keeps opening her heart and being in her own power.
Knowing and sharing her heart is ecstasy.
Sharing the heart of her beloved is absolute and perfect joy.
We live in a time when we are constantly bombarded with images, ideas and sound bytes that tell us who we should be, could be and ought to be. Unless you live in a cave, you can't escape their massive barrage, and let's face it, even from a cave you could probably still get text messages.
Think of all you see in a day... images and words of what you should look like, should have and ought to measure up to, all pointing to one main message, 'You are not enough.' It's enough to make your head spin, and throw even the most self-assured person off center. Add in a few difficult life events - a breakup, a job loss, a pay cut -- and you could end up with a Hiroshima to your self-confidence.
Unless that is, you have built up your self-confidence muscles. Just like training for a marathon and building physical muscles, to be a successful, happy and confident person you must work out your mental and emotional muscles regularly.
You wouldn't go to the gym to start training your physical muscles the day before a marathon, would you? No way! You'd peril on the pavement. So why would the marathon of your life be any different? It's not.
Put these 7 tips into practice daily and you will develop the confidence and conviction that you can do anything... no matter what the outside world is telling you:
1. Stop Worrying About What Others Think. Trust Yourself
You can't be responsible for how everyone else thinks about how you live your life, so stop worrying about how your family, partner and friends will react to your choices and start getting real about how you feel about your life. Act from what you think is right for you. We always know what the best action is to take for ourselves, when we slow down enough to listen to our inner wisdom. It's just not always easy to slow down or to trust our intuition. Be committed to trusting yourself, even when it's scary, and even when others disagree.
2. Become Best Buds with Your Intuition
Inside of you is the best life and decision making compass ever - your intuition. It always communicates what is best for you, but you have to be listening, and you have to trust its advice. Just like a best friend, if you're not calling, it will stop trying to contact you. If you keep asking for advice but don't take it, it will stop trying to help. Start listening for the communication cues of your intuition - through words you hear, images you see, feelings you have, and things you just know. Act based on what your intuition tells you and you will start to trust yourself more, and build more self-confidence in the process.
3. Know What Makes You Unique
Every person, including you, was born with a set of unique gifts, talents and inclinations that they are naturally good at, more so than the average person. When you find these gifts and use them, your confidence, success and happiness increases. Think Tiger Woods. Born to golf. No matter how much you practiced, you'd never be as great as him; he has a gift. You have gifts too. Ask the people that know you the best, "What are my gifts?" Take notice of the compliments you receive, especially ones you find hard to accept. Make a list of your gifts and start putting time, energy and money there.
4. Know What Makes You Happy
Stop trying to fit into the expectations and ideals that outside forces - society, family, work, friends -- have said you 'should' be in order to be successful, happy and accepted, and start asking yourself, "What really makes ME happy?" Think about the times that you've been happiest. Who were you being? What did you have? What were you doing? Do the same for your most unhappy times. Compare the two to your life today and notice the gaps. Happiness breeds confidence.
5. Have an Opinion and Express It
Know what you believe and don't be afraid to express it. Confident people have convictions that come from inside their souls, minds and hearts. They know their truth and are willing to stand in it, even when what they have to say makes others uncomfortable. Know your truth in all situations and share it with pride and conviction, knowing that your unique voice deserves to be heard just because you're you.
6. Never Apologize For Being You
Unfortunately the world is full of people, including our inner mean girls and inner bullies, that want to keep us small, playing along and being 'good' girls and boys. When you listen to them by apologizing for who you are, or by discounting your contributions, thoughts and feelings, you squash your self-confidence. Be brilliant. Be you. And never apologize for it.
7. Spend Less Time in the Basement, More Time in the Penthouse
We all have emotional triggers, things that evoke an overly strong feeling and reaction--anxiety, anger, worry, shame, despair, fear--especially during times of stress. Your job is to notice when you have one of these 'basement' emotions that erode your confidence, and then to get yourself back up into the 'penthouse' where emotions like trust, peace, love, joy and happiness live. Have your hard emotions, just have them and move back on up to the penthouse, where the view of your life is much better!
On June 22nd, I along with hundreds of women started on a 40-day virtual retreat called the Summer of Self Love... our mission? To take the pressure of having to do, be and have it all off... and to apply instead the power to RECEIVE all the love, happiness and peace we work so hard to attain.
You see, we are achievers... we've been bred to believe that we have to do, do, do, and we do, we are great doers! We get more done than most, and we do it well. We have big hearts and lots of energy so we give a lot - to the people and things we love and care about. BUT the truth is that we are NOT great receivers.
We work harder than we have to. We are more comfortable doing than being. We are pros at driving and striving, novices at relaxing and allowing things to unfold. We believe we have to make it happen. And we are tired. Exhausted.
Isn't there a different way?
In the past three years, I have been on my own personal mission to find this way... as a woman dedicated to bringing more and more self love to myself and to the world, I am convinced that we have created lives that are unsustainable (and not self-loving... and while we all want to take care of ourselves, we find it almost impossible.
The truth is that the hippies of the 60s really had something right - all we really want in life is peace, love, happiness and freedom. It's why we all work so darn hard, isn't it. But what I have discovered over the past three years is that we never fully open to receive all that we work so hard for. Why? Cuz we are blocked.
Following are seven blocks I discovered after spending one year and 40 days learning how to receive. As you read each one, notice which you employ the most, and then use the questions at the end of this posting to start transforming your non-receiving pattern into a self-loving Feminine Super Power of RECEVING:
7 WAYS WE BLOCK TO RECEIVING...
Chasing the Carrot Syndrome. Always living for the day I will be X. Happy, thin, in love, etc. You are always in the future. You are future focused, not present focused. It's like being at the best 4th of July Fireworks, and thinking about your Christmas presents - you miss the fireworks, and feel unfulfilled.
Force vs Power. You rely totally on your man powers to make it happen, instead of your feminine super powers. You control. You are always moving and doing, because you are used to pushing. And when you are always pushing there is no space for anything to come in. This is like the woman who goes out search for a man, instead of putting out the vibration for him to come into her life. She has a plan, a strategy, she's on the dating sites, she uses a lot of her own energy to make it happen. She doesn't listen to her intuition or have any sense that there are things outside of her control. Now compare that to Sophia Loren, who uses her feminine power to the millionth degree. She just stands there, vibrates off energy, and attracts men to her, little effort, no sweat... even at the age she is today! Talk about Aphrodite energy.
Energizer Bunny Syndrome. Cannot Turn Yourself Off. You are always going going doing doing so again there is NO space for anything to come in. And you are the one doing it all, till you drop. Ex. You have a mind that always moves. You can't relax. In fact relaxing makes you twitch. You don't know how to "be", and maybe even see the value in 'Being', after all how much can you really get done if you are being? (hint, alot!). You may also be the type of person who thinks they can't meditate. You are addicted to doing.
Disconnected from Source. There is an abundant universe that wants to give you many many gifts. When you think you have to do it all on your own, when you don't have a daily practice where you connect to source, when you don't operate on faith, or are over attached to outcomes, you are out of the flow, and you are not receiving all you could. When you cut the flow off you have to work way harder.
Atlas Syndrome - Over-responsibility. You take everything on because you can do so much but then you end up with the entire world on your shoulders. You see something that needs to be done, so you do it. You volunteer even though you are already busy. You overcommit and then stress out because you have so much to do (although you always get it done.) Often, you think you are the only one that can do it right. You pride yourself in your maniac multi-tasking abilities. And then you get mad and burnout, because you know what, carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders is too heavy, even for you.
Master of the Universe Complex. You try to control it all. Organizing it. Covering all the possibilities. You don't let anything fall through the cracks, and you'll work extra long and hard to make sure everything nothing can go wrong. Trust, Surrender, Accept, are not words you live by. You may be prone to stuffing your feelings... don't have time to fall apart. You would rather know exactly what is going to happen, plan for all possibilities. You really aren't into allowing things to happen. Stepping into the unknown is not your favorite thing to do.
Closed Heart - to yourself or to others. Your heart isn't open fully to give or receive love. You've built Fort Knox around your heart. You've learned to protect yourself. Vulnerability is not your strength and you aren't even sure if you would want it to be. No one, not even you, gets totally into the softest parts of you. And when it comes to loving yourself, lets just say that if people could see how mean you are to yourself, they would call the authorities.
WHICH BLOCK DO YOU HAVE... then ask yourself the question?
What is the benefit?
What is the cost?
What is the truth?
What is the consequence of admitting the truth?
I invite you to become aware of which of these blocks show up in your
life... the entire 40-day practice of the Summer of Self Love is built
to open up these blocks. You can learn more about the practice at www.summerofselflove.com
