Choosing ME before WE Book Club Chat
Find the love you are looking for by starting with the love you have for yourself... and do it with your girlfriends by your side!
One of the most talked about topics in the world among us girls is our relationships – we laugh, cry, and complain about them, spend hours trying to figure them out, and all too often focus the conversation on the wrong pronoun – HE or SHE! Ladies, it is time to grab your girlfriends and get talking about the only pronoun that is going to get you the love and relationship you want – M-E!
I wrote Choosing ME before WE as a girlfriend whose been there, gets it and has transcended my own stuff so that I could find the love I wanted from a partner – because I finally learned how to give it to myself. The book includes stories, insights, exercises, questions (called ME reflections), and more that makes it a perfect companion and provocateur for real, sassy, soulful conversations with your girlfriends. Single, married, dating, no matter, this book and the deeper conversations it’s bound to stimulate are for every woman.
Formal book club or informal gathering of your girlies, do the Choosing ME before WE Book Club Chat with a group of women, and you’ll find yourself nodding your head, laughing, and creating a closer bond with yourself and the great women in your life.
Ideas for a Great Book Club Chat
Choosing ME before WE, Every Woman’s Guide to Life and Love can be used for one, two or three conversations. It has three sections: ME, HE & WE, each which could be a full conversation, or you can cover all three in one chat, especially if you do some of the reflection prior to your talk. In the outline below, I’ve included one question per chapter that each woman can answer prior to meeting. You can also use the inquiries as launching pads during your conversation.
Whether you spend an evening on each section or you do the whole book in one night, create an intention for an evening that allows for real conversation, full of honesty, wisdom and stories.
There is tremendous power when women come together to share their experiences, Use it!
Conversation Fodder & Thought Provoking Questions
- ONE: Knowing ME: Who is This Woman Called ME?
?: Write two-three paragraphs that answer this question: “What is the life that I really want to have?”
- TWO: Truthfully ME: How Real Am I With Myself?
?: What lies have I told myself about my relationships or about love? What was the truth?
- THREE: Loving ME: Do I Really Love ME, All of Her?
?: What would be different in my life if I loved me, all of her? What is hardest to love? Easiest to love?
- FOUR: Trusting ME: Who’s That Talking Inside of ME
?: When have I ignored my intuition, and what happened? When have I listened & what happened?
- FIVE: Honoring ME: Who Said Settling For Less and Sacrificing Are Mandatory
?: What am I settling for in my life right now - tolerating or procrastinating? What do I really desire?
- SIX: Choosing Your Core Four: Get the Guy You Want By Discovering Your Core Four
?: What are your Core Four?
note: this could be a chat all in itself, where you share your Core Fours, give feedback and insights to make them even better.
- SEVEN: Getting Wise About WE
?: Why do you want a relationship, as in how does it make your life better? What parts of an authentic partnership do you have now or have you had in the past? What can you change about you to create more trust, respect, intimacy, friendship and trust in your relationships?
- EIGHT: Getting the Intimacy We Crave: If You Want It You Have To Give It
?: What is hard for you about being vulnerable, showing all of yourself, and creating a safe space for your partner to do the same? What can you shift about you that will make it easier for both of you to create intimacy?